A number of friends have killed themselves and I, like their family members and other friends, have wrestled with “the difficult moral, societal and religious implications” of how they ended their lives. We have also blamed ourselves for not noticing the warning signs. VA has excellent resources and ways to help you grow through the suicide loss of a military family member, friend or battle buddy. Below is an excerpt from VA’s webpage “Helping survivors work through emotions.” Click the link above to go straight the webpage to read more and find how they can help you.
“Veterans have a significantly higher suicide rate than other adults in the U.S. This means Veterans are also more likely to have known someone who took their own life. Uniting for Suicide Postvention (USPV) helps make sense of a suicide loss. The program connects survivors with resources to help them work through powerful and unique emotions specific to this type of grief.”
“Compared with many other kinds of loss, suicide can be particularly challenging for survivors. Specifically, they must wrestle with the difficult moral, societal and religious implications.”
“Shock at the suddenness of the death may compound their grief. Or they may feel a mix of shame, anger, guilt and, sometimes, relief.”
“Some survivors blame themselves for not noticing warning signs, even though such signs may not have been obvious. And the effects extend beyond close family members. Even first responders, who never personally knew the deceased person, can be affected emotionally by the suicide scene.”